Slut Shaming —- Men, Lets Be Honest, we have all been a part of it…..

My previous post on the issue of “Slut Shaming of Women” and the subsequent discussions in the comments got me thinking……..
 
You know, we often talk about “Slut Shaming” of women on the Internet. I know I do. And a lot of the guys I know also come and agree with my views on my posts.
 
In most cases we seem to think that these are cases which happen under anonymity on the Social Media and our condemning these actions and people is enough. Hain na?
 
But these people, these Men, who are busy slut shaming women are not virtual profiles. They are real people. They are all around us. They are part of our friends groups, part of our families too in some cases.
 
Lets be honest here for a moment? Have you guys never been a part of a conversation where a Woman was slut shamed?
 
Have you never been a part of a group where someone, upon seeing a hot girl in a short skirt, said, “Wow wo dekh kya maal hain…. mast usko lene ka mann kar raha hain”
 
Have you never heard a jitled lover being consoled by his friends by saying, “Jaane De na Bhai, chinaal hain saali. Sabke saath soti hain, randi. Dusri mil jayegi tere ko”.
 
Have you never been chatting with a group of friends at a bar in a nightclub and heard the words, “Man!! this babe dances like a slut”
 
Have you never heard any of your family members say, “Beta/Beti uss ladki ke saath mat jaa, uska na character itna accha nahi hain”
 
Havent you been a part of a Whatsapp Group where tons and tons of vulgar “jokes” are made projecting women in a derogatory manner? Where deplorable obscenities are hurled at Film Actresses and Models because they have made the “Crime” of exposing their cleavage or wearing a bikini??
 
So these issues are not restricted to only the Social Media and the Inbox messages that women get on such platforms. Its much deeper than us. Its all around us and we are a part of it and in some cases, a party to it too.
 
I dont know about you, but I am honest enough to accept that I have been a part of such conversations.
 
In most cases, I have ignored such comments and in some cases, I have figured out a way to alienate myself from such conversations.
 
So that “Unka Keechad Mere saaf daman pe na pade”. I did not want to sully myself by indulging in their baseless derogatory talks.
 
But is that enough??
 
I dont think so. This only makes such people, such Men, grow bolder. And there will come a time when our own kids will be making such statements about other women. And what are we going to do then?? Alienate ourselves from our own kids??
 
NO !!!!
 
Today, I make it a point to stress, that not only will I not be a part of such conversations, but I will also SPEAK UP.
 
I will make it a point that my displeasure and disgust about such conversations and the people who have such conversations will be made open in a distinct and Not-So-Sweet manner.
 
So if you dont want to spoil your Woman bashing daru parties, DONT INVITE ME TO THEM.
 
If you think your freedom to abuse and deride women will be hampered by my presence, dont be in my company.
 
And I will not mind it all. I dont mind losing my friends who dont have any problems in being a part of the process in which a Woman loses her respect and dignity.
 
But I have had ENOUGH and the time has come for me to say “Enough is Enough” and this shit will not be tolerated.
 
And this is exactly what I am going to do …. What about you, Guys?? Are you going to sit back and shake your heads in disgust? Are you going to simply look at this issue from a Third Party angle and say, “Yaar ye na Internet pe aise log hote hain, Cyber Crime cell should track them”??
 
Or are you going to actually start speaking up and show your intolerance about “Slut Shaming” by your actions?
 
Disclaimer: This post is an appeal to all the Men and to those women who indulge in “Slut Shaming” or are party to such conversations without raising your voice in protest. Stop it Now because we wont be Tolerating this in Future !!!

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